Guest Book

It is very, very easy to look at other people and say they need to change this or that. It is much harder to be honest with yourself and to identify areas where you need to grow. I haven't met anyone yet who couldn't use some growth (or a tune-up) in one way or another. I DO NOT leave myself out of this as I have many areas, physical, emotional, spiritual, I could use some growth in and should work on. That said, it is not easy to change. Change is about doing something new and going to a place that is unknown. People are fragile creatures of habit and being in a place that is unknown is a very scarey proposition at a psychological level. Change takes time and mostly it takes patience with yourself because it is so easy to stop trying when the little steps you take backfire, or you fail at them over and over. Change looks more like a spiral than a linear point in time between two spaces. Not only does change take patience with ones self, it also takes a lot of self love, which is not something most of us are very good at. There are familial, historical, religious and sociological reasons for that but still if you can keep loving yourself and being honest with yourself in the forefront of your mind and heart, then change is possible. Of course, the bottom line is that no one can make anyone else change. The person has to want to change.