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I read this quite awhile back from a site , "Bottom Line Secrets", and copied it to notepad, was reading back on some quote's and information the other day, and read this again, seems to be applicable on the road we call Life........ymmv "Forgiveness is central to our relationships. It allows us to maintain and repair our connections with others. People are always disappointing or hurting us. Without forgiveness, envy, resentment and bitterness would grind our relationships to dust. And yet we resist forgiveness for various psychological reasons, especially our tendency to fall in love with our own resentment. Forgiveness is not always easy and not even always right. But it provides us with a way to restore and renew the love that nourishes us. I define forgiving as letting someone back into your heart. This returns us to a loving state -- and not merely within the relationship. We feel good about ourselves and the world. Many people hold onto a grudge because it offers the illusion of power and a perverse feeling of security. But, in fact, we are held hostage by our anger. It is important to put the relationship's positive and negative aspects in perspective. We tend to demonize people who hurt us, forgetting their good qualities. You may think, He showed his true colors and everything before that point doesn't count. That is the paranoid-style thinking of victim hood. While it is natural to want contrition, it is a mistake to hold out for an apology at any cost. Ask yourself... Which is more important -- being proven right or maintaining the friendship? Do I want to be dependent on what the other person does? Does his failure to apologize have to lock me in bitterness?" Bitterness is a very , Long, Hard road to travel..............